Mother's Day 2011

For me, the joy of Mother's Day is always a little bit tainted with feelings of inadequacy and guilt. I always feel bad that I can't be the perfect mother for my sweet little angels. I don't like feeling that way. Yesterday, I was out of bed, around 5 in the morning, feeding Creed-- and I found myself uttering a silent, but heartfelt prayer.  My heart was overflowing with gratitude for the blessing of being a Mother. I love my children so much. I truly feel like being a Mother was my entire purpose for being placed on this Earth. It gives meaning to every single thing I do.  I don't know what I will do when my children are grown and gone-- talk about a major identity crisis in the making! As I prayed, I asked Heavenly Father to help me keep those feelings of joy throughout the day. As a result, I spent the day rejoicing. I know I am far from perfect... but those thoughts didn't enter my mind  at all yesterday . Instead, I revelled in how truly blessed I am to have these fabulous little people as my babies!

I was very spoiled by my family. My children were all so excited for Mother's Day. On Saturday, the day started with breakfast in bed, and ended with chocolate covered strawberries. On Sunday, I opened gifts, and was sung to in church, and I received lots of hugs. I felt very loved. I have great children, and a fabulous husband, who spoils me more than I deserve!

I also feel very blessed to have such special women in my life. I have the best Mother. I have the best sisters and sister-in-law. I have the best Grandmothers. I learn so much from them and their examples. I am the luckiest girl, and know that my daughters are learning from their examples as well.

Someday. . .

Someday I will only have to clean my living room once a day, instead of once an hour.
Someday I will make a meal, and nobody will complain about what we are having.
Someday all of my Tupperware will be in the cupboard, as opposed to strewn all over the backyard.
Someday I will look in the bathroom mirror and see my face, not a haze of tiny fingerprints & toothpaste splatters.
Someday I will sleep all night long.
Someday "running" errands will actually be more like running, instead of a slow crawl.


I'm pretty sure that when that very "someday" comes, I will be wishing for little mouths to share my "yucky" food with. I will miss the backpacks, blankets, tiny socks and shoes littered through my home. I will long for the days of my Tupperware pieces turning up filled with crazy concoctions, and my lipstick looking like smashed goop. And yes-- my heart may even ache for a baby or two to drag me out of bed in the middle of the night. 


Someday, I will yearn for this day.

I sure hope that "someday" takes a very long time to get here.

The Important Role of Mothers

It was my turn to teach Relief Society again... lucky me. I taught on the importance of motherhood-- or,more precicely, how to use the scriptures and words of our church leaders to become better mothers. Here it is:

Jesus said, “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father ,which is in heaven, is perfect” I know that he doesn’t expect us to become perfect in this world,-- but-, while we are on earth, he does want us to try our best and seek perfection.

In an Ensign article (April 2006) Pres. Thomas S. Monson talked about Becoming Our Best Selves he quoted the savior when he said:

“What manner of men ought ye to be? Verily I say unto you, even as I am.” In His earthly ministry, the Master outlined how we should live, how we should teach, how we should serve, and what we should do so that we could become our best selves.”

Pres. Gordon B. Hinckley was always encouraging us with sayings like

“Stand a little taller and work a little harder, rise a little higher, be a little better. Make the extra effort. You will be happier. You will know a new satisfaction, a new gladness in your heart” and in his article The Quest for Excellence, he said: We are of the family of God, with such a tremendous potential for excellence. The distance between mediocrity and excellence can be ever so small. The little extra effort we make becomes such a tremendous difference.”

I think, as women, it is a natural tendency to want to be excellent in all we do… and, in turn, I think it is also a natural tendency for us to be extremely hard on ourselves when we fall short of our high expectations. Satan is well aware of this vulnerability, and fully utilizes every opportunity we allow him to make us feel like our efforts as wives, mothers, daughters, and so on, is all in vain. He wants us to give up. He wants us to feel like our best is not enough and improvement is not possible. However, we know, as daughters of God, that we are here on earth to grow and strive for our divine potential. If there is something, as a wife or mother, that we are not pleased with… we can work on it, and become better.

So, how do we become our best selves? The world would have us read and study the concepts of scholars and specialists. (show books)These books can be interesting, and helpful, and even problem solving. I don’t discount them. However, President Boyd K Packer has said, “Understanding true doctrine can change behavior faster than the study of behavior will ever change behavior.” In other words, the fastest way to change something we don’t like about our behavior is to study, and come to understand, true doctrine.

So where do we learn true doctrine? Through studying the scriptures and words of modern day prophets. (show scriptures and Ensign)

Heavenly Father wants us, as wives and mothers, to be our best. He knows that it is not always easy-- but he does not want us to feel discouraged. He inspires our church leaders to give us the counsel that is needed for the times we live in. They are words of encouragement, not condemnation. They are meant to lift and inspire us to be our best selves.

As I listened to conference in April, I was amazed at how many talks were focused on the important role of motherhood. I know that there are no assigned topics, so that tells me that with ten talks about motherhood we need to listen and act upon the things we are being taught. In this wicked world there is a greater need for righteous mothers teaching their children by word and by deed. These talks can help us know how to be better mothers. They are meant to lift us and encourage us to be better, not to make us feel inadequate or lacking. We can listen to these talks and allow Lucifer to make us feel like a failure and disappointment to our Heavenly Father, or we can look at them as the “true doctrine” that they are and use them as a guide to do better and be better.

As I have studied and prayed about these 10 talks, my gratitude for inspired leaders and our loving Heavenly Father has grown more than I can say. I was trying to decide what parts of each talk would be the most important for me to share. And I realized for everyone that answer would be different. Because of that I have asked some sisters to share their feelings about specific talks and I have given them the impossible task of doing it in one minute. I am sorry we don’t have more time but I hope it inspires each of us to study them for ourselves. As we do so, I promise that Heavenly Father will strengthen us, and help us become the women and mothers we desire to be.

*And upon the Handmaids in Those Days Will I Pour Out My Spirit”
-Julie B. Beck-Donnetta Rhead
*Mothers and Daughters -Elder M. Russell Ballard-Tammy Daisson
*Help Them on Their Way Home -President Henry B. Eyring-Louise Hoagland
*Mothers Teaching Children in the Home-Elder L. Tom Perry- Shannon Neibaur

*Watching with All Perseverance-Elder David A. Bednar-Heidi Christensen

*He Lives! All Glory to His Name!-Elder Richard G. Scott-Audrey Lambert
*That Our Children Might See the Face of the Savior-Cheryl C. Lant -Alisha Wickern
*Our Duty to God: The Mission of Parents and Leaders to the Rising Generation
-Elder Robert D. Hales -Ruth Comeau
*Mother Told Me -Elder Bradley D. Foster -Gwen Butler

*Tell Me the Stories of Jesus -Elder Neil L. Andersen - Janette Wood

Thank you so much for your time and efforts in preparing and sharing your thoughts and feelings. You all did so much better than I could have ever done. Thank you.

In closing, I testify the scriptures and words of our church leaders, are the best “self-help manual“ or parenting handbook available. As we study the true doctrine they contain, they will change us, and shape us into the women we desire to be. (Show, and pass out little scripture handout). We are Heavenly Fathers children, our children are His children, and He loves them and wants all of us to return to Him. I know Satan delights in discouraging the work of Mother's. He likes to whisper words of doubt in our ears, and make us feel like our efforts are in vain. I know many times I have felt so inadequate and like my precious children deserved so much more for a Mother than what they were given. I absolutely love being a Mother-Sometimes it is more fun than others and some times it is not fun at all- But it is all I have ever wanted for myself. I wish I was better at it-- more patient, more soft, more kind-- more righteous, more many things. However... when I think of it as a "partnership" with Heavenly Father, I am reminded that I am not doing this alone. I can go to Him for guidance and strength. He can change me into who I hope to be. My efforts matter to Him, and to me, that makes ALL the difference.

I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

The Real Wonder Woman

My Mother is amazing! I don't know very many people who want to be exactly like their Mothers...I however, have strived for just such a thing for the better part of my life (a goal, in which-- despite years of trying-- I am not doing very good at).

My Mother has always been such a fun mom (and is now a fun Grandma). She made us feel loved, and like she absolutely delighted in having her children around. She always made holidays and birthdays extra special. My siblings and I always had the best valentine's boxes and science fair projects for school. My Mom was always calm and patient. Even still, she acts like we were flawless little kids. My mother is good at everything she does. It wasn't until I became a Mother that I realized that it isn't always an easy job, because my Mother made it look like a breeze.

I have spent my life watching my Mother magnify callings, serve others, and befriend the friendless. She is an amazing example to me. I don't know why Heavenly Father sent me to her and my father, but it has been the great blessing in my life.

This past week, my Mother came to help with Creed, and I loved every second of it. While she was here, she cleaned the house top to bottom (took the knobs off the oven to wash them, cleaned the toilet, and vacuumed under the couch for Pete's sake), made treats and delivered them to all the people I owed thank-yous to for baby gifts, ran to the store a gazillion times, took the kids to the library... lunch at the park...the rodeo... etc..., made a special meal, and cheesecake for Ryan's birthday, did laundry, filled our freezer and pantry, kept me company when Creed woke up during the night, and did countless other things. She left yesterday(she even took my 2 boys home with her for a couple weeks of swim lessons), and I have been crying ever since. I know that I don't need her here. I can do this by myself. It is just that I loved having her here and truly appreciate all she did.

My Mom puts Wonder Woman to shame. There are no words to express what I feel in my heart. I love my Mom. I want to be like her, but I am beginning to realize that she is one of a kind. THANK YOU for everything Mother!